“To the parents who grew up with childhood trauma… To the parents who grew up in homes with violence or shame or emotional neglect or wounding of any kind, please know that the sheer amount of effort it takes you daily to not get triggered by the screams of your children, or the punches they throw at you (or each other), or the lack of control you have over your environment, or the constant sensory or physical demands, does not go unnoticed…